Getting married and having children is increasingly becoming a choice and not an obligation in modern day America. As of 2012, less than 20 percent of households in the U.S. consist of married people with children.
While this could mean a lot of things, one interpretation is that marriage and child-rearing is now something individuals and couples approach with more intention, meaning, and choice, not with inherent expectation. Hopefully, this reflects an evolving culture where we honestly com...
One practice that has shown to significantly improve women’s sexual satisfaction is mindfulness. A 2013 study showed that women who intentionally engaged in a group mindfulness practice experienced a significant increase in sexual arousal, desire, general satisfaction and enjoyment during sex, as well as better physiological sexual functioning (lubrication for example). Additionally, a 2015 study showed that women who orgasm more frequently during partnered sex also score higher on mindfulness measures.
Often, the only advice we ever receive about sexually transmitted infections (STIs or STDs) is don’t get them. Chances are, your high school sex ed instructor reviewed a long list of scary STI symptoms paired with photos of gnarly vagina rashes and left it at that. Does anyone else find this unhelpful? STIs are still treated with tons of shame in our culture despite the fact that many of them are completely curable and almost all of them are treatable.
Talking dirty to someone can be a deeply sexy and satisfying way to turn both you and your partner on. It can create suspense in a hookup as you paint a wet, hot picture of what’s about to go down.
Also. Talking dirty can be awkward. If you aren’t comfortable and in the mood, dirty talk can make you feel on the spot, unsure, or downright embarrassed.
What does it mean to be an inclusive therapist and how can you get there?
Many therapy skills can be learned once and then implemented. A therapist can learn to fill out insurance paperwork. They can learn the rules about being a mandated reporter. They can learn about specific interventions to use in sessions. Inclusivity, however, is not a one-and-done skill. Being a truly inclusive therapist requires continuous engagement with principles of social justice and intersectionality.
You’ve decided to go to therapy! Even better, you’ve identified a therapist you’re interested in and have set up an appointment. Now, how can you get the most out of your first session?
Here are some tips that can help you feel more prepared.
1. Identify Your Goals
Before your first session, give yourself some time to reflect on what you’d like to accomplish in therapy. Why did you decide that now is an important time to begin therapy? What do you hope to achieve in therapy?
For some people, ...
Blending your orgasm is one of the simplest ways to take coming to the next level. A blended orgasm results from stimulating both the clitoris and the inside of the vagina at the same time. Some people say that these orgasms feel deeper, more intense, and last longer. Sounds pretty good, right?
Feeling anxious during sex can bring things to a grinding halt in the bedroom. It’s pretty hard to focus on how good you feel when you’re worrying about how badly things could go. Unfortunately, having anxiety is super common. About 1 in 5 people has an anxiety disorder making it the most common mental health issue in the U.S.
Oops! You had unprotected penis-in-vagina sex and now you’re worried about getting pregnant. What should you do? Most forms of birth control, like the pill, an IUD, or the implant, need to be in place before you have sex. However, emergency contraception are forms of birth control you can take after having unprotected p-in-v sex to significantly lower your chances of becoming pregnant.
Before jumping in, it’s worth noting that emergency contraceptives, also known as emergency birth control, d...
Where do I even begin?
Sometimes finding a good therapist can feel a little bit like trying to find the “right one” by swiping through Tinder. How do you decide who you’re going to trust with some of your most vulnerable experiences simply by reading an online bio? Don’t worry, I’m here to help you out. Here is some guidance for choosing the right sex therapist. Let’s start by talking about sex therapy.
What kinds of sex and sexuality issues can be addressed in therapy?
Sexual issues can be r...
"What can be contributing to a low libido and what are affordable things I can do about it? (i.e. seeing a therapist might not be an option)"
It can be really frustrating if you want more sex in your life but never feel in the mood. Before jumping into some ways that you can change your relationship with sexual desire, I want to clarify that how much you want sex is personal and there’s no right or wrong amount to want sex or to have it. Everyone is different and it’s ok to want sex a lot, so...
When someone you’re hooking up with says, “I’m so wet,” or “I’m so hard,” we understand it to mean, “damn, I’m really turned on, touch me.”
Our cultural understanding of desire assumes that we can tell if someone is turned on by how their body is responding during sex. Turns out that’s not really true! That’s because physical arousal is not the same thing as subjective arousal.
Physical arousal is when your genitals are responding to a sexual stimulus (like porn or a partner touching you). Su...
Q1: "How do I practice safe sex with someone of the same sex? Are there condoms or protection I can use? Specifically, how do I a female with a vagina have sex with another person with a body like mine?"
Q2: "Where do I get more resources on ftf sex? I guess I have always only been exposed to heteronormative sex and was wondering where I could learn about how women have sex with women - further resources on what can occur?"
I’m so happy you’re asking these questions! So many of us get a high ...
Some people can breeze through their periods unscathed (#blessed). And then there are the rest of us.
Pain accompanying periods is pretty typical. In fact, 84% of people who menstruate experience some type of pain. However, period pain affects people on a spectrum. About half of people don’t experience cramping at a level that requires treatment. The other half of people (55%) need to take medication to manage their pain (usually an NSAID) and 32% of people experience pain so severe that it c...