Louise Head

Using Self Pleasure to Tackle Chronic Pain — by Louise Head
Conversations about sex often focus on the fun and steamy side of sex. That’s great! It’s also really important to talk about the not-fun parts of sex — the stuff that gets in the way of experiencing pleasure — and what we can do about it. For people who experience chronic pain, enjoying sex can sometimes be challenging.
What is chronic pain?
About 20 percent of individuals in the general population experience chronic pain of some ki...

We want to take some space to celebrate a part of life that often gets overlooked for moms — Self-pleasure. We live in a culture that often de-sexualizes motherhood. Moms often feel pressured to appear 100% dedicated to their children with little room for their own multifaceted identities. And one massive part of being a human is your sexuality. So what does it mean to be a mom and to be feeling yourself? There aren’t a ton of nuanced cultural models showing us the way here.

For people who experience chronic pain, enjoying sex can sometimes be challenging.

How can you best support and love someone who is living with an ongoing mental health condition? Here’s some guidance.

When someone you’re hooking up with says, “I’m so wet,” or “I’m so hard,” we understand it to mean, “damn, I’m really turned on, touch me.”
Our cultural understanding of desire assumes that we can tell if someone is turned on by how their body is responding during sex. Turns out that’s not really true! That’s because physical arousal is not the same thing as subjective arousal.
Physical arousal is when your genitals are responding to a sexual stimulus (like porn or a partner touching you). Su...

Often, the only advice we ever receive about sexually transmitted infections (STIs or STDs) is don’t get them. Chances are, your high school sex ed instructor reviewed a long list of scary STI symptoms paired with photos of gnarly vagina rashes and left it at that. Does anyone else find this unhelpful? STIs are still treated with tons of shame in our culture despite the fact that many of them are completely curable and almost all of them are treatable.

What does it mean to be an inclusive therapist and how can you get there?
Many therapy skills can be learned once and then implemented. A therapist can learn to fill out insurance paperwork. They can learn the rules about being a mandated reporter. They can learn about specific interventions to use in sessions. Inclusivity, however, is not a one-and-done skill. Being a truly inclusive therapist requires continuous engagement with principles of social justice and intersectionality.

Q1: "How do I practice safe sex with someone of the same sex? Are there condoms or protection I can use? Specifically, how do I a female with a vagina have sex with another person with a body like mine?"
Q2: "Where do I get more resources on ftf sex? I guess I have always only been exposed to heteronormative sex and was wondering where I could learn about how women have sex with women - further resources on what can occur?"
I’m so happy you’re asking these questions! So many of us get a high ...

Talking dirty to someone can be a deeply sexy and satisfying way to turn both you and your partner on. It can create suspense in a hookup as you paint a wet, hot picture of what’s about to go down.

Also. Talking dirty can be awkward. If you aren’t comfortable and in the mood, dirty talk can make you feel on the spot, unsure, or downright embarrassed.

Most people with vaginas can make themselves come in under ten minutes. Yet when it comes to having sex with a partner, only about 50% of women orgasm consistently while men almost always orgasm. If it’s a first-time hookup, women only come 11% of the time. Now there’s a fact that will make you feel about as cheerful as the Grinch who stole Christmas.
The orgasm gap is likely the product of our cultural norms and expectations around sex. It is not the natural consequence of women simply not n...

By Louise Head, Sex Educator
The G-spot still fuels healthy controversy, even in 2017. The internet will assure you that everyone can have a G-spot orgasm. Patriarchal culture can often convince people that G-spot orgasms (vaginal orgasms) are somehow more real or more valid than clitoral orgasms and that these are the types of orgasms that should be happening during penis-in-vagina sex. However, when you talk to real people, there’s a lot of confusion about whether the G-spot exists, where y...

Seeing your BFF become a parent can be a beautiful and strange experience. Let’s be real: You may be watching the person who drank boxed wine with you through college become responsible for a tiny human being.

Getting married and having children is increasingly becoming a choice and not an obligation in modern day America. As of 2012, less than 20 percent of households in the U.S. consist of married people with children.
While this could mean a lot of things, one interpretation is that marriage and child-rearing is now something individuals and couples approach with more intention, meaning, and choice, not with inherent expectation. Hopefully, this reflects an evolving culture where we honestly com...

Did you know that the phases of your menstrual cycle can influence not only your desire for sex but also the type of attraction you feel? Each person’s cycle uniquely impacts their body and mind throughout the month.

One practice that has shown to significantly improve women’s sexual satisfaction is mindfulness. A 2013 study showed that women who intentionally engaged in a group mindfulness practice experienced a significant increase in sexual arousal, desire, general satisfaction and enjoyment during sex, as well as better physiological sexual functioning (lubrication for example). Additionally, a 2015 study showed that women who orgasm more frequently during partnered sex also score higher on mindfulness measures.